I have three boys.
One by marriage, two by birth.
I live in boy-world most of my days. And, to be completely honest, I like it. I often think if I had had girls, I really wouldn’t know what to do with them. Even though I am a girl, they are somewhat foreign to me. I don’t know quite what to do with all the angst and drama and princess pink that comes with having girls.
So, I guess I was made to have boys. Stinky ol’ boys. Boys, who grow up just to leave their mothers and then cleave to another woman…a woman who will never, ever be as wonderful as their momma….
I’m just sayin’….
(Of course, in my case, my mother-in-law thinks I hung the moon….riiiight, Nana??!)
But, what I’ve learned over the years of living with boys, is that they are nothing like girls. Nothing. Shocker, right?
They like dirt….
They like going fast….
Even my baby is all boy and I just knew I would be able to keep at home, safe, forever. Unfortunately, he looks up to his older brother, so he likes to try the same things, only at an earlier age….
Have you ever heard of, or read, the book, “Wild at Heart,” by John Eldredge?
It’s a book about men, for men. But, I’m here to tell you, it’s a pretty good read for women, as well, especially if you have boys. Some of the book, as with most books (and blogs), you can take it with a grain of salt, but overall, I really liked it. It helped clarify for me some of the differences between boys and girls…why boys do what they do.
Finally, it made sense why I was the only one in the house doing things the right way….
Eldredge says there is something wild in every man’s heart.
He believes God created men with three important aspects wired into their personality.
First, according to John E., men have a desire to protect and defend. Second, he says men have a proclivity to rescue a beauty. (He does not imply that all women are damsels in distress, don’t worry!)
And, lastly, Eldredge talks about a man’s need for adventure; it’s in their DNA.
I don’t know about the boys in your life, but in mine, adventure is definitely a driving force. In fact, the latest distraction in my boys’ lives is 4-wheeling…. Oh. Joy.
My oldest off-spring had been begging me to go with him the next time he planned to go riding his quad; A) so I could watch his “beastly-ness,” and, B) so I could take pictures of him being “beastly.”
A weekend or so back, I finally tagged along …with much trepidation.
As with most situations where I am dragged along to watch the boys do risky things, I actually find, often, that I enjoy myself. I liked watching them. Maybe I liked it because it was a fairly controlled environment and because they were wearing helmets and protective gear. Who knows?
ThrillCam is very good about making sure the boys are safe.
It made this momma feel a little better about what they were there to do.
But, then my oldest started doing this…
And, then this….
And, before long, my youngest was doing the same, but, thankfully, on a smaller scale.
I realized in the end, I was happy, because they were happy. They really were enjoying themselves.
John E. says this:
I don’t like it, John Eldredge. I don’t like it at all.
But, they are boys. It’s who they are….
It’s how they’re made.
And, they are very, very fierce.